We start with settling for about 7-8 minutes followed by about the same time with basic mindfulness practice. Then we explore "moderate" experiences of pleasant or unpleasant when they occur, whether a bodily experience, an emotion, or a thought (or a mix), experiencing pleasant or unpleasant and seeing whether there follows wanting (or not wanting) and grasping (or pushing away). We close with some reflection on what we explored: Was some of the wanting or not wanting skillful? Unskillful. This exploration is related to the talk given a short time later.
When we offer mettā to ourselves, we're not trying to transform our experience into unconditional self-love—we're learning to love the parts of ourselves that don't want to love us back. This practice invites us to recognize all our parts because when we can love the fragmented parts of ourselves, we begin to see ourselves as sacred beings, and in knowing ourselves deeply, we come to know Kuan Yin.
